We talk a lot about being gaslit by others… but what about when we gaslight ourselves? This week, I realised I was doing exactly that. I set a completely reasonable boundary, but the moment it was met with resistance, I wobbled. I started questioning myself, doubting my feelings, and wondering if I was “overreacting.” Here are 8 ways we self-gaslight: • Minimising or dismissing our own feelings. • Second guessing our memories or perceptions. • Blaming ourselves for things outside our control. • Ignoring or invalidating our needs. • Explaining away mistreatment or disrespect. • Dismissing our intuition or gut feelings. • Becoming emotionally confused or disconnected. • Over rationalising others’ behaviour at the expense of our own wellbeing. The thing is, self-gaslighting often shows up quietly, in the subtle ways we downplay our needs, question our intuition, or talk ourselves out of what we know is true. So I paused. I reminded myself: Your feelings are valid. Your boundaries are allowed. Your needs are real. And I stood firm. If you’ve ever found yourself spiralling into self-doubt after asserting a boundary, you’re not alone.